Marriage is jus US

Heard some stories recently about young families' problems with their parents/parents-in-laws and they are all similar.However, the differences in the reactions of the inolved parties lead to different consequences at the end.

A mother who has never taken a liking towards daughter-in-law. With an attitude of "She made my son turn against me; My son changed his attitude towards me because of her; She snatched my son away", she cannot see anything good about her. She bad-mouthed her daughter-in-law to anybody she meets, even to acquaintances whom she first met.Anybody whom she came across gets a share of what she perceived as problems. Most of the "problems" are trivial matters that she brought upon herself from distorted thoughts.She never try to listen to people who helps to analyse things for her. She remains unhappy, grumpy and fills the young family with stress and rips the family of warmth.

Old folks were angry when all their children(all with new families) did not "come together" as frequent as they want them to.They refused to talk to them. Children migrated quietly to avoid the stress. Old folks end up alone. Siblings dispersed all over the world. Their idea of wanting their children to always be together, their fear of their children not in union, their insecurity of their own original family "breaking up" caused things to turn up in the opposite way.

Another mother too wants her two children with their families to go out and have fun every week.The problem is the structure of both families and life-styles are so different that neither can find weekly activities that fit both.Mother very unhappy.Again felt that it was "outsiders" who are destroying her "family".Her unhappiness caused rifts between her children's families. Then again, her children refused to give up and kept explaining to her.She now realised that her family ideas are not all correct. She changed her perspectives. Both families are very at ease with each other and with her, enjoying the co-existence of individual families and the original one. They got together more often naturally and relationships have improved.

Those who think that marriage concerns "just the two of us", think again.